How Healthy Are YOU?
11.23.12 | Posted in UnCommon Leadership
Yes, same title, but this time with a different emphasis. Last time the spotlight was placed on how healthy you are to work for. We asked you to think about your leadership style and really be honest, look in the mirror and question what kind of leader you are. You could even ask yourself this simple question; “If I could exchange places with one of my employees would I be excited to work for me or would I dread coming to work everyday?”
That’s really the essence of the dialogue we’re trying to encourage. We want you to recognize that as a leader you have a tremendous impact on your employees and that includes a direct link to their health!
Today we’re writing about you and your health. The question is this; how is your mental, physical, social/emotional and spiritual health? Some people like to call that taking the “holistic” view. In the leadership coaching and consulting work I do, we see people who look to become UnCommon Leaders by changing focus, strategy, tactics, tasks or modifying habits. But, how many of us go to the core and really do the close, in-depth look into all aspects of who we are? Not many, I’m afraid. The common example we know is the physical evaluation whereby we acknowledge we can’t get into the tux or wedding dress we were married in so we decide that this is finally the year we’re going to take that extra 10, 20 or even 40 pounds off. We begin dieting and working out and some of us stick with it and even begin to look and feel better. Then it happens.
Stress at work or at home hits, the exercise plan goes out the window and you start your old eating habits again. Why? Simple answer, really. We were focused on the symptoms we saw (extra weight) and not what was causing us to lose our focus on our individual health in the first place. Some of us are overweight because we legitmately have a health issue (for example, thyroid issues) and just can’t get the weight off. But that is the exact point. What if you don’t know you have a thyroid issue? Can you commit to a diet and exercise plan? It’s not going to work and you’ll get frustated, give up and blame yourself. You focused on the sympton and did not get to the root cause of the issue.
UnCommon Leadership™ says we are willing to go deep with ourselves, recognize what we know and don’t know and seek the guidance of those who can help us identify what the real issues are. It’s being willing to focus on “root” causes of our issues and not just go put another coat of paint on the same wall.
In my friend George Kolhrieser’s book Hostage At The Table; How Leaders Can Overcome Conflict, Influence Others, and Raise Performance he writes about a senior executive who was slated to become the next CEO. Even though he was getting financial results people were terrified of him. He was given the ultimatum to change how he treated people, but he failed and was fired. After working with George he discovered the root causes of his isolated, angry way of leading others, and now counts the firing as the best thing that could have happened to him. Initially, he tried to modify his behavior, but couldn’t sustain it. It took going deep and discovering why he wasn’t capable of “bonding” with those he was leading. (p. 40&41)
This approach isn’t the easiest which is why few choose it. The person who wants to make a difference and accomplish important things in their life would be best served by focusing first on themselves and their total health. UnCommon Leaders look in the mirror and recognize their own “stuff” first. They get out of blame mode and take responsibility, and they find people with expertise in all areas of the holistic view that can help them through the path of discovery. They are willing to be challenged at their “core”, and address the significant issues that are impacting every aspect of their performance; mental, physical, social/emotional and spiritual.
Are you ready to look deep in the mirror?
Onward & Upward!